The Lone Wolf

Wolf Pack | Hansen-Spear Funeral Home - Quincy, Illinois

Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family. Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one. - Jane Howard   Everyone needs a tribe, a pack.   I ran into a friend on a long, slow, meandering dog walk, the kind that take two or more hours. He was sharing with me that he has been going to counseling to work on himself, and one of the topics of discovery has been his sense of belonging. He said we are … [Read more...]

Spear Family Cooking: Jeff’s Spring Pasta and Kale

Jeffs Spring Pasta and Kale

I came across a recipe in Pathfinder magazine that looked like a nice, refreshing and easy Spring pasta dinner. I made a few changes (more bacon and garlic, of course, and Feta cheese) from the original that I think enhanced the overall flavor combinations. Total time from start of prep to finish was less than an hour, so it’s a nice meal without taking a huge amount of time if you get stuck working late.   Jeff's Spring Pasta and … [Read more...]

How has your loved one claimed you?

Heart Hands | Hansen-Spear Funeral Home - Quincy, Illinois

Hello readers and may God bring you his peace and joy! I was reading James Ellroy's, essay called "The Haunting", published in an August 2009 issue of Newsweek magazine. I'd like you to rest with his words, spending some quality time bearing in mind if they hold any truth for you in relation to your grief experience. "The dead claim the living and extend the process through the imposition of grief. It is the juncture of powerlessness and … [Read more...]


Friends Give Support | Hansen-Spear Funeral Home - Quincy, Illinois

I was struck by something so simple, and so obvious the other day, I hadn’t actually consciously noticed it before. Of course, I had felt it before, but hadn’t made it a rule, hadn’t spoken the words: Make sure your support people feel supportive. I had been reflecting on the people that crossed my broken hearted path, and recognized that some had the potential to lift me up, and some had the potential to knock me down. Some could … [Read more...]


croutons | Hansen-Spear Funeral Home - Quincy, Illinois

I am making croutons for a party we are giving this weekend. This recipe is made with gluten free bread and is very tasty. The biggest problem I seem to have is keeping enough for salad since we and our company seem to enjoy just snacking on them. I have included pictures of the bread package so you know what it looks like on the shelf of the grocery store. For those who have friends who are afraid to try gluten free food, don’t tell them. … [Read more...]

Who do I want to share my life with now?

Friends | Hansen-Spear Funeral Home - Quincy, Illinois

Dear Friends: A number of friends I have made over the past years here in Quincy said that after their parents died they looked around at their social circle and concluded that life was too short to squander it on people who were not "best friend" material. Prior to their parents' death, their friendships resembled dating - having a full dance card, as it were. But once their parents were gone, these respondents became much more particular in … [Read more...]