The Gift of Having all Your Feelings

Christmas Ornament | Hansen-Spear Funeral Home - Quincy, Illinois

There is so much pressure to be happy in our culture, especially at the holidays.  We are supposed to have a “merry little Christmas” somehow.  If you are grieving during the holidays, you may be feeling anything but happy.  It doesn’t matter how long ago the death occurred.  The holidays are a time when we most long for those who are no longer here with us. Grief can make us feel sad, angry, scared, or regretful, We may have times … [Read more...]

Moving Day…

Dog in Moving Box | Hansen-Spear Funeral Home - Quincy, Illinois

Changes are afoot…we are moving… I moved into this house two months before Cam died. At that time, it was his house, and we joined our lives here. After he died, I didn’t want to leave. Being in his house, surrounded by his things, his essence, was comforting. Over the years, I made this house mine. I updated the bathroom and the kitchen. I planted flowers in the garden. Filled the space with my things, my essence. Slowly it … [Read more...]

Holiday Grief: Expressing Your Feelings

Advent Wreath | Hansen-Spear Funeral Home - Quincy, Illinois

Dear Friends: Peace and all good! During this time of Advent a time when we mediate on the incarnation of God becoming one of us, it makes me stop and contemplate on this great mystery of God’s love for each of us. God shares in our daily lives asking us to create a world that is filled with faith, hope and love! As I think of the many people who have lost loved ones this past year, I say this to each of you. Be good to yourself, be … [Read more...]

GIVE BACK Charity Profile: Franciscan Firefighter Law Enforcement Ministries

Franciscan Firefighter Law Enforcement Ministries | Hansen-Spear Funeral Home - Quincy, Illinois

On the eve of Thanksgiving, I am thinking of all the blessings I have in my life and the many reasons I have to be thankful.  One group of people I come into contact with in my business that certainly deserves many thanks is all of the first responders in our community.  The police, firefighters and emergency medical service personnel are always just a call away when we need them.  I was talking about just that with Brother Ed Arambasich OFM, … [Read more...]

Thanksgiving Trap-dition

Thanksgiving Family | Hansen-Spear Funeral Home - Quincy, Illinois

More than 50 years ago, my grandfather invited some of his friends and his sons-in-law to his farm for a trap shoot early on Thanksgiving morning. Since that first frosty Midwest morning, the tradition has continued. Rain, snow, sleet, cold, mud and sunny autumn weather have greeted those participating in the shoot. If it were bitterly cold, a couple of log fires were built for people to gather around while waiting their turn. Coffee arrived … [Read more...]

Follow Through: The Blessing Hospice Grief Program

Rose | Hansen-Spear Funeral Home - Quincy, Illinois

The end of life can be an ambivalent time for most family members, full of mixed emotions among family members and sometimes even contradictory feelings within yourself.  There may be sadness that the loved one is no longer physically with us, yet relief that he or she is no longer suffering.   Tears and sadness about the loss of life are common, but so is laughter and smiles at fond memories of a life well-lived. Blessing Hospice has a … [Read more...]